Resources and Tools for Self Management Skills
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What is Self Management
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Understanding Self Management
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Self Management
Self Management skills are related to you and only you. They are skills which you are in control of, which you make choices for and which you can also learn. 6 Self Management Skills
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Self Management
Time Management, Self Presentation, Eating Healthy, Exercising Daily, Spend time with friends and family, Enough Sleep - Be Motivated
How you can increase your self awareness.
Instead of asking "why me, why didn't it work" ask "what can I do to help" or "what is that I do that makes a difference"
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Self Awareness, Esteem and Confidence - Vision and Goals
Self Management requires effort, energy, motivation and a vision and goals. It requires that you don't give up, even when things get tough, it requires that you will keep trying, even when things don't go right, it requires that you continually monitor your own performance to see if you are on track to achieve your goals. This will in turn build your self awareness, esteem and confidence.
It can be difficult to be motivated and have the energy and drive to do something. Having a vision or a goal is an important part of self management as it requires self commitment. Consider the commitment these people have made! What commitments can you make to your career, to your relationships and to yourself ?
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Why is vision and goals, so important to self management
Without vision, singers, inventors, business people and workers would never have been great.
Vision is the vehicle, you are the driver!
Without vision, singers, inventors, business people and workers would never have been great.
Vision is the vehicle, you are the driver!
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Self Regulation
Self Regulation is when you set standards and rules for yourself... these are underpinned by your values. Values are important to building your self worth. Here are a list of core values. When you set a standard or rule it is based on the knowledge you have.
Example
I'm not going to steal. This self regulation is based on knowing that stealing is wrong, it has been taught to you by a parent or teacher and you know that there is a consequence which has a punishment. So the value is "to respect other people's property." The Self Regulation is that you will not steal.
Another example
I'm not going to eat junk food. This self regulation is based on knowing that too much junk food can make you sick and unhealthy. So the Self regulation you may on be to "eat junk food once a month"...
Try setting some Self Regulation around the follow: -
* Time
* Food
* Health
* Study
* Work
* Job seeking
* Family
* Relationships
Example
I'm not going to steal. This self regulation is based on knowing that stealing is wrong, it has been taught to you by a parent or teacher and you know that there is a consequence which has a punishment. So the value is "to respect other people's property." The Self Regulation is that you will not steal.
Another example
I'm not going to eat junk food. This self regulation is based on knowing that too much junk food can make you sick and unhealthy. So the Self regulation you may on be to "eat junk food once a month"...
Try setting some Self Regulation around the follow: -
* Time
* Food
* Health
* Study
* Work
* Job seeking
* Family
* Relationships
Self Control and Understanding emotions
Self control is being in control of our emotions and reactions. It requires us to implement self regulations we have put into place. For example if our self regulation rule is to respect others. This requires us to control our temper, our negative reactions to someone who is disrespecting us and respond in a respectful, calm, quiet and positive yet constructive way.
Some Examples...
If someone is feeling unhappy or sad, what is the best way we can deal with this?
Could we ask them if there is anything we can do for them? Could we comfort them and say things like "it will be ok" "would you like a drink or to just sit and talk"
If someone is feeling angry or frustrated, how best can we deal with this?
Should we get angry too? Should we frustrate them more by saying that they shouldn't be angry. Or should we ask them "Is there is anything I can do?" " Would you like to talk about it?"
Emotions are sometimes hard to work out.
Here is a game to help us work out the emotion, then we can discuss what we may need to do in the case of each emotion.
Self control is being in control of our emotions and reactions. It requires us to implement self regulations we have put into place. For example if our self regulation rule is to respect others. This requires us to control our temper, our negative reactions to someone who is disrespecting us and respond in a respectful, calm, quiet and positive yet constructive way.
Some Examples...
If someone is feeling unhappy or sad, what is the best way we can deal with this?
Could we ask them if there is anything we can do for them? Could we comfort them and say things like "it will be ok" "would you like a drink or to just sit and talk"
If someone is feeling angry or frustrated, how best can we deal with this?
Should we get angry too? Should we frustrate them more by saying that they shouldn't be angry. Or should we ask them "Is there is anything I can do?" " Would you like to talk about it?"
Emotions are sometimes hard to work out.
Here is a game to help us work out the emotion, then we can discuss what we may need to do in the case of each emotion.
The Emotions Game -
Let's see if you can pick the right emotions and how you would react to each!
Let's see if you can pick the right emotions and how you would react to each!
Self Commitment - Taking Responsibility
Name things that you do in each day which include one of the following self management tasks below
These are things that you take responsibility for everyday!
Time management - Name a task which involves being on time!
Resource Management - Name a tasks which involves using a resource to get a job done!
Human resource management - Name a task which requires asking some else to assist or help with a job!
Behaviour Management - Name a task which requires you to show positive/helpful behaviour!
Cleanliness Management - Name a task which requires you to complete some form of cleaning!
Food Management - Name a task which requires you to manage food!
Technology Management - Name a task which requires you to use technology!
Health Management - Name a task that requires you to manage your own health!
Explain what the task is and what you are required to do!
Name things that you do in each day which include one of the following self management tasks below
These are things that you take responsibility for everyday!
Time management - Name a task which involves being on time!
Resource Management - Name a tasks which involves using a resource to get a job done!
Human resource management - Name a task which requires asking some else to assist or help with a job!
Behaviour Management - Name a task which requires you to show positive/helpful behaviour!
Cleanliness Management - Name a task which requires you to complete some form of cleaning!
Food Management - Name a task which requires you to manage food!
Technology Management - Name a task which requires you to use technology!
Health Management - Name a task that requires you to manage your own health!
Explain what the task is and what you are required to do!
Sam's Self Commitment Journey
Now ask yourself, what you can do to make things better, what you can do to help yourself and others, what it is you want to achieve! What is it that would make you happy!
